An article defining love and hate, and the benefits and disadvantages of love in our life.
By Cristo Rey
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What is love? How many different kinds of love are there? What are the benefits of love in our lives? What are the disadvantages of love in our lives?
The purpose of this article is to attempt to answer these questions by a departure from the conventional and traditional views on this currently much-maligned subject. During the last Century (20th), we have been mislead to believe that love is a concept which defies definition. Far from the truth, love is the simplest of human sentiments and emotions, and like all self-evident phenomena amenable to be defined on its own terms.
What is love?
At its most basic level love has in common with all other human sentiments and emotions a basis in the physical reality of the Universe.
All human sentiments and emotions have as their underlying basis a complementary physical force, this because the Universe is but a part of the body or substance of God.
In the beginning there was only God (Jn 1:1), the revealed Word of God informs us, and astrophysicists are in general agreement that all of the matter and energy in the universe was originally compacted into a singular entity about the size of a grapefruit. If we assume that both sources are referring to the very same phenomena, then the physical force of "attraction" which kept all of the matter and energy in the Universe compacted so was but the physical manifestation of God's love of self.
Accepting these premises, then love in its simplest terms is the sentimental or emotional manifestation of the physical force of "attraction," with the observable result by its attempted realization of the union or fusion of the attracting entities into a singularity.
This is all the more so, because we know that human love is more of a yearning or desire that can never be satisfied, therefore a DRIVE. Given that we were created in the image of God (Gn 1:27), we then mirror or image His own capacity to love and yearning to be loved. This is so, because if in the beginning there was only God, then He had to employ part of His substance or body to create the observable Universe, as something cannot be created out of nothing. Embedded in every part and product of His creation is a portion of God's love of self, or physical self-attraction. As a special product of His creation with His declared intention of imaging Himself in us (Gn l:26), we manifest His capacity to love and yearning to be loved . . .
Love is then the sentimental manifestation in human beings of the physical force of attraction, encompassing as its most important property the desire and yearning by the attracting entities of their union or fusion into a singularity (Mt 19:4-6).
In the simplest of terms, love is the desire and yearning of two mutually loving human beings to fuse together physically, so as to share existence as one, and end their perceived lonely physical isolation and separateness, i.e. "to cleave together as one" (Mt 19:4-6).
What at a superficial glance would appear to be a yearning for an impossible physical fusion, marital love DOES RESULT in the full, real, and complete fusion of the mutually loving human beings into one.
This complete and perfect fusion does not come about by the blending of their own bodies, but through their procreation of their children, who will manifest the full and real physical expression of the complete blending of their genetic physical characteristics, and if appropriately raised, the blending of their psychological, intellectual, and emotional characteristics as well.
As was with God (Gn 1:31), they can only be content to gaze upon this marvelous incarnation of their desires and yearning in front of them, and utter "it looks good."
Let it remain clear, however, that love and reproduction or procreation are not one and the same. Love, sex, and reproduction or procreation are separate and distinct phenomena, but are occasionally coordinately employed by loving human beings as desirable ways of expressing their love, and the manifestation of one of these does not necessarily or by obligation incite the others.
How many different kinds of love are there?
Contrary to popular belief, there is only one and only one kind of love, Love is Love. The different ways of expressing love is what creates the apparent existence of different kinds of love. Added to the confusion, is the notion of Romantic Love, which was a purely human invention during the Renaissance and can be feigned. True love is Natural, therefore it cannot be feigned, it cannot be controlled or regulated, and it is spontaneous in its manifestations; Because of this, it should be allowed to be expressed without inhibitions or reservations . . . it should be allowed to express itself.
We love motivated and driven by "mammalian" biological instincts. We love because of a felt affinity with analogous human beings. We love because of our yearning to end our profoundly perceived loneliness in existence as separate physical entities. We love because our soul desires to fuse with another soul, to end that perceived loneliness. We desire intimate and sexual love because our bodies desire to feel the warmth of another body, and the union with another body in sexual embrace, in an attempted consummation of the fusion which our soul yearns for. Finally, we love because we love, and yearn to be loved.
Love involves loving and being loved . . .
All love, parental, filial, brotherly, compassionate, passionate, Platonic, intimate, or sexual is the same love, only the different ways of its expression create these apparent varieties. We tailor its expression in degrees appropriately according to the object of the love, to the relationship, and to its context . . . but the love is the same.
What are the benefits of love in our lives?
There are so many psychological, emotional, physiological, biochemical, and spiritual benefits to loving and being loved in life, that they are too numerous for this author to present adequately. The reader must just try it for himself or herself . . . you will discover the benefits in the feeling of it.
What are the disadvantages of love in our lives?
There are no known disadvantages to loving and being loved in life!!!
Food for thought
Just as love is the sentimental or emotional manifestation in human beings of the physical force of "attraction," "hate" is the sentimental or emotional manifestation in human beings of the physical property of "repulsion." However, lest the reader get the impression that I am saying that there was or there is hate in any part of God, I must explain.
This author is of the educated opinion that there is no such a force as "repulsion," but rather the absence of attraction, just as there is no such thing as "darkness," but rather the absence of light, and there is no such thing as "cold," but rather the absence of heat. Furthermore, I believe that the absence of everything in the universe is truly "nothingness." Were we to reach the edge of the known Universe, we would be facing the nothingness.
Accepting by the above postulations that "repulsion" is merely the absence of "attraction," then "hate" is merely the absence of "love."
We first become bonded by love to one parent (the mother), and later to both (the mother and father), and then to the other parent (the father), achieving a weakening of the original love bonds to our nuclear and extended family, in favor of attraction to non-members of our family, in search of a potential future love-mate.
Everything is alright with the Universe . . .